How Can I Tell If My Relationship Is Healthy?
Ask yourself these questions:
- Can you name at least five characteristics of this person that you really like and admire?
- Is this person glad that you have other friends?
- Does this person ask for your opinion about things?
- Does this person have good relationships with their family and friends?
- Does this person talk and listen to you?
- Do you consider this person a friend?
- Do you act like yourself when you are with this person?
- Does this person have other interests besides you?
- Does this person expect you to say where you have been when you’ve been apart?
- Does this person lose their temper easily?
- Does this person get angry or hurt if you don’t pay attention to them?
- Have you ever seen this person throw, hit or break things when angry?
- Is this person jealous of your friends and relatives?
- Does this person use drugs or alcohol? Do you?
- Does this person have trouble controlling their anger?
These questions are helpful to ask of all of our relationships – friends or dating partners.
Do your answers reflect who you want to be, and to be with, in your relationships?
Healthy Relationships: The 12 Ingredients
Acceptance – The unconditional positive regard that says: “I accept you just the way you are.”
Affirmation – We all need positive strokes.
Trust – Essential to a healthy relationship.
Love – That quality of honoring ourselves and others for who we are on the inside.
Honesty – Sometimes risky. Always necessary.
Commitment – Day to day renewal
Mutuality – It takes two.
Freedom of Expression – Presented with respect. Accepted with respect.
Confrontation – Not avoided or aggravated.
Regular contact – Staying in touch.
Testing – Going through tough times together.
Humor – The ability to laugh with ourselves and each other.
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